My friends I come to you with this post with a heavy heart. My son who is only 14 has had two classmates in the past week that have lost their parents unexpectedly. I can not identify with the sense of loss at losing your parent suddenly at 13 or 14 years of age. Losing my dad after his health had slowly deteriorated over the past several years at age 80, I at age 42 have felt such an incredible sense of loss. I don't think we are ever prepared for the loss of our parents, but to lose them at such an incredibly young age, is so unbelievably sad. I also have a heavy heart for those that were in the SUV which crashed killing one of the parents. I know the woman who was driving, she has a huge heart and always a beautiful smile. I fear it will be some time before we see her beautiful smile any time soon. Of the two parents who died in the past week, I knew one. She was so vivacious and full of life. She had a personality that was MUCH bigger than her small frame. She had an inner light and glow which will forever be missed.
Out of my sons small class of some 40 children, 5 of them have now lost their parents. A ratio that is hard to fathom. I find solace and comfort only in that they share the same grief and understanding of the trauma of losing a parent at a young age.
So please, lift these two girls up in your prayers. They need strength, support, love, patience, understanding and faith above all else. Please pray also for their families and the others involved in the car accident; for to survive such an ordeal will leave wounds that will be with them for a long time.
Monday, February 11, 2013
Wednesday, February 6, 2013
OK- Let's Get Down to Business and Do Some Praying to Help Those In Need
Alright, now that I have a LITTLE bit better control of my grief- I thought I would update everyone on those I have sent "gift packages" to in the past 5 weeks or so. That way, hopefully they will receive more prayers and more healing. I hope you can find a few moments in your day to say a prayer for them. For we are all vulnerable, we will all have our own sadness, we will all have our own pain, we will all have our own fears, and there WILL come a time in your life- when YOU need a little help too. It is the nature of life. We all have good times and bad; ups and downs. The only thing constant about life is that it is NOT constant. In the end what matters is that we help each other the best we can while we are hear. For when we are gone, it will be too late. Okay- so here we go----
Prayers needed for a gentleman who was just diagnosed with brain cancer stage four at the beginning of December. If he wouldn't have had radical surgery before the end of December- he would have been gone; and would have left behind a beautiful wife and 2 boys- 14 and 12.
Prayers for another gentleman who had problems with dizziness and feeling poorly- only to find out he also had a large tumor in his brain. Although they were able to do successful surgery and it doesn't appear to be cancer, he had several scary days in the hospital- and now faces chemo and radiation with lung cancer.
Prayers for yet another young gentleman with brain cancer. A lovely person who was an angel of mercy and saved another person in desperate need of medical help.
Prayers for a lady friend who continues to battle ovarian cancer; and as a consequence of chemo has lost her hair. The sad effect of chemo on women and men who value their appearance; HAS to be very depressing. I feel so sorry, as their body struggles to manage the chemicals needed to essentially kill off other cells within them.
Prayers needed for a childhood friend who recently lost her father. From first hand experience, losing a parent is a VERY tough loss.
Prayers for two friends from high school who are also mourning the recent loss of their parents. I guess its a consequence of all of us getting older; we are at the place in life where are parents are graduating and moving on to much more glorious and beautiful places. Although we know we should be happy, we can not help but be sad at the thought of never hearing their voice on the phone/ getting a warm hug/sharing a laugh at a treasured memory/celebrating all kinds of holidays with them and the whole permanency of death. We must remember that we will again see them and then we will NEVER be apart again.
Prayers for another person who I will never meet. This young woman's sister was diagnosed with breast cancer on a Thursday, and passed away before midnight on Friday. She had little more than 24 hours on this earth before she went to be with Jesus. With her sudden and unexpected passing, she left a devastated and shocked family. The road for them with their grief will be very difficult. I pray they find comfort, hope, strength and grace in the books that I sent out to them.
Prayers for another family that I will never know in Montana. They suddenly lost their son who was but 18 in a snowmobiling accident. Such a young life, just beginning; now gone in an instant. Leaving behind in the wake of this terrible loss, a family who will struggle many a day as they walk this road.
Prayers for another family that I will never meet. They lost their mother/wife in a tragic accident when the life-flight helicopter she was flying in (as a nurse), crashed unexpectedly. Her loss has left behind several grieving children and a whole community who admired her.
Prayers for 2 dear friends who through 2 sets of different circumstances have been left without jobs. Most certainly although they know- it is because He has much bigger and better plans; the sting of uncertainty and unfamiliarity is not welcome. I have faith that they are destined to do much bigger and greater things in the future, and they will both be happier and live the life that they so richly deserve.
Prayers for another young couple that I will never meet- as their precious little infant went to be with Jesus in January. A sweet little baby who had fought so very hard for some perhaps 4 months. I cannot imagine their pain.
Prayers for my OWN family as my mother, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, my children and countless friends of his mourn the loss of my father. He was a great man, he never knew an enemy or stranger. We are all better for having known him, and I shall miss him for all my days.
Thanks for your time and attention. If you know of someone who is suffering from a loss, whether be job related or something else, and they could use a little encouragement feel free to message me on facebook. I will do my very best to send something that will be meaningful to THEM. For not all of us believe the same things, not all of us appreciate the same things, not all of us enjoy the same things; but we could ALL use a little support and caring from one another.
Margo Dierdorff
Prayers needed for a gentleman who was just diagnosed with brain cancer stage four at the beginning of December. If he wouldn't have had radical surgery before the end of December- he would have been gone; and would have left behind a beautiful wife and 2 boys- 14 and 12.
Prayers for another gentleman who had problems with dizziness and feeling poorly- only to find out he also had a large tumor in his brain. Although they were able to do successful surgery and it doesn't appear to be cancer, he had several scary days in the hospital- and now faces chemo and radiation with lung cancer.
Prayers for yet another young gentleman with brain cancer. A lovely person who was an angel of mercy and saved another person in desperate need of medical help.
Prayers for a lady friend who continues to battle ovarian cancer; and as a consequence of chemo has lost her hair. The sad effect of chemo on women and men who value their appearance; HAS to be very depressing. I feel so sorry, as their body struggles to manage the chemicals needed to essentially kill off other cells within them.
Prayers needed for a childhood friend who recently lost her father. From first hand experience, losing a parent is a VERY tough loss.
Prayers for two friends from high school who are also mourning the recent loss of their parents. I guess its a consequence of all of us getting older; we are at the place in life where are parents are graduating and moving on to much more glorious and beautiful places. Although we know we should be happy, we can not help but be sad at the thought of never hearing their voice on the phone/ getting a warm hug/sharing a laugh at a treasured memory/celebrating all kinds of holidays with them and the whole permanency of death. We must remember that we will again see them and then we will NEVER be apart again.
Prayers for another person who I will never meet. This young woman's sister was diagnosed with breast cancer on a Thursday, and passed away before midnight on Friday. She had little more than 24 hours on this earth before she went to be with Jesus. With her sudden and unexpected passing, she left a devastated and shocked family. The road for them with their grief will be very difficult. I pray they find comfort, hope, strength and grace in the books that I sent out to them.
Prayers for another family that I will never know in Montana. They suddenly lost their son who was but 18 in a snowmobiling accident. Such a young life, just beginning; now gone in an instant. Leaving behind in the wake of this terrible loss, a family who will struggle many a day as they walk this road.
Prayers for another family that I will never meet. They lost their mother/wife in a tragic accident when the life-flight helicopter she was flying in (as a nurse), crashed unexpectedly. Her loss has left behind several grieving children and a whole community who admired her.
Prayers for 2 dear friends who through 2 sets of different circumstances have been left without jobs. Most certainly although they know- it is because He has much bigger and better plans; the sting of uncertainty and unfamiliarity is not welcome. I have faith that they are destined to do much bigger and greater things in the future, and they will both be happier and live the life that they so richly deserve.
Prayers for another young couple that I will never meet- as their precious little infant went to be with Jesus in January. A sweet little baby who had fought so very hard for some perhaps 4 months. I cannot imagine their pain.
Prayers for my OWN family as my mother, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, my children and countless friends of his mourn the loss of my father. He was a great man, he never knew an enemy or stranger. We are all better for having known him, and I shall miss him for all my days.
Thanks for your time and attention. If you know of someone who is suffering from a loss, whether be job related or something else, and they could use a little encouragement feel free to message me on facebook. I will do my very best to send something that will be meaningful to THEM. For not all of us believe the same things, not all of us appreciate the same things, not all of us enjoy the same things; but we could ALL use a little support and caring from one another.
Margo Dierdorff
Monday, February 4, 2013
Time does fly- no it hasn't been fun :(
I do apologize as I have not posted it appears since Christmas. My mind and heart have been heavy this past 5 weeks as I lost my beloved Papa on December 30th. I am so grateful that I got to have him here in Grundy Center with me during his last 5 weeks. He moved into the long term care unit of the hospital that I work in- so I was easily able to see him everyday. We started a routine whereas I would visit him after I got off work at 5:30. I would go down to the long term care unit- we would listen to his Anne Murray CDs (he loved her so I got him some CD's seemed to calm him down). I would feed him his evening snack of icecream and then give him a massage to his hands and arms and wipe his face and head with a cool cloth. I sure enjoyed spending that lil extra hour and a half with him. He had spent the last 20 years living up in North Dakota in Devils Lake. He lived at Woodland Resort and was the Campground Host- a title he was so very proud of. So, although I have been very close to my father since I turned 12 and decided to move to Missouri to be with him; while he was up in ND- I generally only saw him twice a year due to the distance. So to have him here with me was so incredibly nice. When my sister and I brought him down to the VA hospital in Iowa City before Thanksgiving- we knew he wasn't well. When he came to Grundy Center- I knew he wasn't well. When he was first hospitalized in Grundy, I knew he wasn't well. When I took him for his video swallow- and he could only handle pudding thick liquids without aspirating (food going into his lungs instead of his stomach)- I knew he wasn't well. When he was hospitalized in Grundy- then at Allen in Waterloo- I knew he wasn't well. And the very day he died- I knew he wasn't well. BUT- in the end- none of that has eased the pain. I have lost my forever hero- one of my best friends- one of the people who loved me and understood me the best in the whole world. More than ANYTHING I wanted to be there when he died holding his hand and telling him how much I loved him- more than ANYTHING I NEVER wanted him to die. So we are on the "grief-go-round". My version of a merry-go-round. You may go safely up for a while as you turn the circle- only to find yourself back down. Just as all of the grief books I have read in the past 4 months have stated- grief is NEVER a linear process. But, one day at a time- one foot in front of the other- we go on- for we really have no choice.
I will post more tomorrow- for although I haven't been posting on here- I have been very busy praying and sending out numerous books to people in need. Tomorrow- I will post a brief summary, so if you would like- you can join in and pray for others along the way too.
God Bless You where ever and who ever you are- for you are loved- you are cherished- and you are everything to someone in the world. We ALL are.
I will post more tomorrow- for although I haven't been posting on here- I have been very busy praying and sending out numerous books to people in need. Tomorrow- I will post a brief summary, so if you would like- you can join in and pray for others along the way too.
God Bless You where ever and who ever you are- for you are loved- you are cherished- and you are everything to someone in the world. We ALL are.
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